Learning from Ian

First, I want everyone to realize it’s Mat tonight on the blog. So let’s manage our expectations accordingly. 

We have had two great days of visiting with Ian.  Still getting used to that name.  I would say we discovered a couple of more things.  He likes to eat, likes to laugh, and like most American boys, he loves gadgets (iPhone, cameras, etc).  In fact today, we purposely left the iPhone at the apartment.

On Friday we spent some alone time with Ian, but also hung out with a group of the kids.  We attempted to play monopoly deal again, but that game without an interpreter is too hard.  We also picked mulberries.  Yummy.  Being tall I was able to bring the branches that have eluded them in the past.

Everyone eating their share of Mulberries.

Due to Sasha having to do a lot of paperwork on our behalf, we got to spend some extra time with Ian on Friday.  There is an amazing amount of red tape that must be managed and Sasha sure knows how to work the system. So we don’t have to worry and everything goes by as quickly as possible.  We are praying for a court date of next Friday, so join us in our prayers as this will be another opportunity for God to show His greatness and how He owns everything and that we are given strength and success at His discretion.

 “Everything in the heavens and earth is yours, O Lord, and this is your kingdom.  We adore you as being in control of everything.  Riches and honor come from you alone, and you are the Ruler of all mankind; your hand controls power and might and it is at your discretion that men are made great and given strength” -1 Chronicles 29-11-12

So we get our last “stamp” from the Ukrainian adoption agency, the SDA, on Monday.  With that we finalize our court paperwork and get a judge assigned to us (there are a couple of other steps in there, but I don’t want to bore you with them all).  From there, Sasha works with the judge on a court date.  Once we go to court to be officially approve the adoption of Ivan/Ian there will be a ten day waiting period – so anyone who disagrees with the adoption can petition the court.  After court, I can go home while Kristin waits to finalize the process (get a new birth certificate, passport, Visa, etc…) which will take another week after the waiting period.  It’s a long process, but without Sasha, the Eli Project, family (we love you – Mom and Dad, Oma and Opa, Olivia, Ayden and Annalise and the rest of Fisher clan) and friends like yourself we couldn’t do it.  Praise God our Father Almighty, Jehovah-Raah, (the Lord my Shepard).

So, one of the great things to see is Ian’s love for laughter.  He loves to ham it up.  He likes to have me pretend to throw him in the bushes.  He thinks this is very funny.  So, I will catch him as he jumps from a bench to my arms and then run with him above my head and pretend to throw him in the bushes.  He especially likes to do this when someone is approaching to scare them to think that I am about to throw this boy in the bushes.  One time he took Kristin’s scarf and umbrella out of our back packet and played dress up and had a great big laugh. 

Isn’t that just the best?  Below I have added a link to a video that is very touching to me.  First he builds a paper boat and plays with it in the water and has a blast.  Then sees my sad excuse of a paper airplane and shows me how to make a better airplane.  And watch how patient he is.  Leadership qualities all over the place.

<<<Link to Video>>> (Yes, I am too cheap to pay $60 a year to add video to our blog)

Let us all learn from Ian.  When our child does something that needs some help, let’s not just say, “you could have done better” or “I am disappointed in you” let’s take the time and show them how to make a better airplane and celebrate in their success.  Give them the “tools” they need to do it right.

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5 Responses to Learning from Ian

  1. Lesley says:

    I love it all! From the blue bench, to the delight Ian shows in teaching his Papa how to make a proper paper airplane, to the way a creative little boy can show such joy playing in a puddle with a branch and pieces of paper. This post touched me deeply, and made me appreciate the simple and amazing creativity I can enjoy through my own son’s talents and perspective.
    Thank you Mat and Kristin for sharing your deeply personal and new relationship! Ian is an amazing little boy who is clearly basking in his happiness of his new found family.
    Love you all so much!

  2. Carrie says:

    LOVE this video! Ian is so filled with joy as he plays with his Daddy. I can see he has a great sense of humor. He and Ayden are going to be such perfect brothers, just as God planned all along. Love you all! We can’t wait to meet Ian.

  3. Luciana says:

    Beautiful! I love hearing him say “Mama” and “Papa”. What a great quality he has – patience. May he continue to always show the fruits of the spirit. Galatians 5:22, 23.

  4. Grandpa Fisher says:

    Great video, helped grandpa and grandma get a glimpse of our fun loving young grandson! I was also glad to see Ian is a better teacher than I was when Mat and I made paper airplanes long ago.

  5. Myndi Shafer says:

    Love it! Praying for you guys as you get that final stamp tomorrow (today??! time difference…).

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