Yesterday was a paperwork day – our facilitator drove to the orphanage for paperwork, to the inspector’s office, picked us up to get documents notarized, then we all went back to the orphanage while more paperwork was compiled, and finally back to the inspector’s office just before it closed (at 6PM) to drop off more paperwork. Oi – I don’t think much is done electronically. But, we did get to meet the orphanage director for the first time, and she had tea and chocolate with us. Needless to say, our facilitator is happy with how quickly things are getting done, and he predicts we will have our last dealings with the SDA on Monday, July 4th – a mere 7 days before they close. Whew!
Today, on our way to visit our son, our facilitator told us that we had to make decision on his name. We had been discussing and praying about this the last few days but weren’t at a firm decision because we thought we had more time. Well God prepared us to be ready for this curve ball. We decided to have a little talk with Vanya first thing to see what he thought. I wanted the conversation to include some options and the reason’s we were thinking of them and see what his opinions were, but somewhere in translation, our facilitator asked him if he liked the name we were leaning toward – and he said “yes” – so I guess it was meant to be …”Ian”.
Like his original name (Ivan), his name is still a derivative of John and still means “God is gracious”. How awesome is that! The meaning couldn’t be more fitting, and we just removed the “v”. With regard to the middle name, we weren’t prepared. When I asked about his middle name, our facilitator informed us that they don’t have middle names in Ukraine, the middle name is actually the father’s name with an ending added that means “son of ….”. So, since our other children middle names are family names also, and if we stuck with the Ukrainian tradition as well, we felt Mathew would work. We also felt it sends him a clear message that he is our son. So…Ian Mathew Fisher it will be!
Ian Mathew Fisher
I know some had some strong feelings about his name. We loved Vanya, which we thought was his real name. It is actually a common nick name for kids – like Jimmie for Jim or Bobby for Robert etc. Ian had previously said he didn’t want “Vanya” because he wanted a more “grown up” name. His official name was Ivan – but pronounced ee-vahn in Ukraine, but in English, sounds more like a girl name “Yvonne”. In the end, instead of having him to either correct people about the pronunciation of his name, or have people immediately ask him “where he is from” based on his name alone, we decided to Americanize his name. I posed the question about names to my Ukrainian Adoptions group to those who have adopted before us. While most tried to keep a Ukrainian name as either the first or middle, by far, kids ended up wanting to go by their American name. It made them feel like they stood out less and helped them adapt to the culture better. In the end, we have felt confirmed about his name and couldn’t be more excited about welcoming Ian Mathew Fisher into our family – the 6th Fishie! More tomorrow on our visits!
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Ian and Mom!