No Matter What…

It seems that almost every other day, I hear from someone we know (even 3 states away) that tells me how they had heard about Vanya from various blog/word-of-mouth sources, and had been praying for him to find  a home, and are in utter amazement when they find out we are the family!  I too, am in utter amazement that we are a part of this incredible story.  I didn’t even know there was a story!   But,  I will be honest, there a part of me is fearful and reserved, maybe even doubting (but I really don’t want to admit that).  It was a painful and grieving experience to lose a child I thought God had called us to in Haiti several years ago.  I was in such a bad state that I never really thought I would ever consider adoption again.  God worked on me for a long time before I would finally listen, and even then, it has been a slow process of questioning, taking a step, waiting, praying, asking again -“are you sure God”?  It has been a huge faith jounrey (and admittly, not necessarily fun – I mean, who wants to willing put their heart back on the line in the unpredictable world of adoption?!)But, it was clear, and undeniably clear for both Mat and I, that we were to travel this road again – no matter what.  It is the “no matter what” part that is oh so much fun to grapple with the Lord about!  BTW – how we ended up in the Ukraine, will be for another blog entry .

My dear friend, April, first told me about Vanya.  We were literally trying to walk out the door for spring break to N.C. It was crazy and frantic  time of trying to get our 3 kids, 2 extra friends, a dog and everything we needed out the door and packed before a thunderstorm rolled in (and make sure the cats and turtle would still be alive when we arrived back home).  April told me that a “paperwork ready” family was needed.  Were we paperwork ready?  I had no clue.  I quickly looked at Vanya’s story (and only part of it) on the blog she sent me as I walked out the door.  I felt the holy spirit tell me to “just take a step and ask”.  So, I quickly sent an e-mail to Eli’s Project,  and flew out the door.  On our 4 hour trip, I constantly thought about this little boy…”what does this mean Lord”?   The next few days were a whirlwind!  We had spotty internet connection, and I was being asked to look at paperwork that was 4 hours away.  I had my friends breaking into my house, getting me info, scanning documents,  doing internet research for me – but it was starting to come together.  However, two big things still  had to happen – an addendum to our homestudy, and an adjustment to our current USCIS status.   USCIS told me they were running about 75 days out for changes.  Hmmm…not good enough…The USCIS officer told me what to do for my best chance to expedite things,  but….no promises.  Guess what  – two days after they received our paperwork, we had a new approval!  Wow God – from 75 days to 2!  Now, the home study addendum was another issue- we talked to our social work on Monday, and needed the addendum in our hands by Friday to get to the Ukraine that weekend!    BIG HUGE ROADBLOCK…our social worker was operating from some very outdated information about HIV and how it could be transmitted.  I knew we were in trouble when her initial response to me was “it can be contracted from sharing a fork”.  For days, we worked to help provide her information and education (and again working from spotty internet connection, my friends were doing research and sending it on to provide for her).  First, she rejected my information, because I was sending information from “advocacy groups”.  After doing her own research, she came around with the transmission issue, but then started a campaign of “what ifs”.  Well, Vanya may be healthy now, but what if he doesn’t stay that way….what if he becomes a burden to you or your biological children…what if he has other issues…what if your community  treats him with a social stigma….I really wanted to scream – “What if any one of us gets in a car accident tomorrow…What if any one of us gets diagnosed with a chronic illness tomorrow etc”…But, we gently explained that we don’t live our lives with “what ifs….”, and that we feel called by God to pursue this, and so these are all risks we are willing to take (the “no matter what” deal). After all, I wouldn’t even be pursing a second adoption if I lived with the “what ifs”.  In the end, I believe it was a spiritual battle, and when I put the call out to “pray”, all that heard, did, and God did a mighty change of heart in our social worker in literally, a few hours time!  In fact, on Thursday a.m., she was still saying “no”, but by Thursday early afternoon, she finally admitted (to her credit) that she was working off information that was not factual, and that she would write the addendum.  Friday a.m., her addendum was in my hands, and all the paperwork went off the the Ukraine (hand delivered) by Sunday.  God is good – and what can I say – No Matter What – God has clearly called us to pursue Vanya, and so,  forward we will go….There are  so many verses that God used to inspire me, but one that comes to mind (and what I’ll end with – finally) is Joshua 1:9   “Have I not commanded you?  Be Strong and courageous.  Do not be afraid; do not be discouraged, for the Lord your God will be with you wherever you go”… matter what (my insert).

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27 Responses to No Matter What…

  1. love says:

    this has seriously blessed me. loved reading you testify here on your journey to vanya & look forward to following along. will continue praying for him & now you all! =)

  2. So blessed to witness the hand of God in your life. So thankful to call you friend. Keep the posts coming! 🙂

  3. Susan A says:

    Awesome… can’t wait to hear more 🙂

  4. brenda says:

    Is anything too hard for God? 🙂 Thank you for deciding to share your journey. It’s really God’s story and He will get the credit, and I can’t wait to read more!!! Praying for everything to go as He plans…..

  5. Rhonda says:

    This is so exciting. I have been praying. I adopted a little boy from Romania. He is such a joy. He is now 13 and recently came to know Christ. There were many hard days but God has so blessed. Keep trusting, July will be here before you know it.
    In His Grace,

  6. Hillary says:

    Coming from Ontario Canada my prayers are with you and your family as you continue on this journey. May God walk with you holding your hand as you bring your son home. Many blessings!

  7. YEA!!! We have all been praying for a family for sweet Vanya. Thanks so much for letting us follow along on this wonderful journey. Can’t wait to see your boy in your arms at last.

  8. Julie McPherson says:

    Thank you for adopting Vanya! I have prayed so hard for that little boy and will continue to do so. When we heard the news that he had a family, Our whole church congregation clapped and cheered. We are so happy. What a blessed little boy!
    Julie (from Whitehorse, Yukon Territory)

  9. Diane says:

    So excited for your family and for Vanya! Look forward to reading about your journey.

  10. Jennifer says:

    I came across your blog from No Greater Joy Mom…I’m so happy to read your story and had been praying for Vanya since I first heard about his story. I can’t wait to follow your journey to bringing him home. I’m so happy for you. I rarely comment on anyone’s blog, but just had to today after hearing the news.

  11. Kristen says:

    Thank you so much for sharing your journey to Vanya! Prayed so hard for this little boy’s forever family to find him and will continue to pray for him and your family until he is safely home!!

  12. Holly says:

    I too am thrilled to meet Vanya’s family! God truly brought up an army for this little guy’s dream to come true! What a faithful God! Looking forward to seeing His handiwork along the way to the Ukraine and back 🙂

  13. Diana Walker says:

    Hi Fisher Family! So glad to follow along on your blog, we fell in love with Vanya from Adeye’s blog! We actually started the process of adopting him after praying for his forever family to find him! God said to our hearts, why not you? We now know He was using this special little guy to open our eyes to the plight of the special needs children waiting for families to adopt them all over the world! We are still praying for all of you! We love your son in a very special way and know He is going to be blessed by his new family specially selected by His Heavenly Father! We are currently working on our home study and praying for God to lead us to the child He has chosen for us. We would ask for your prayers in this as well! Here is the link to our blog which explains how God used Vanya to show us His will for us in this new adventure!

    blessings to you all!
    The Walkers

  14. A concerned reader says:

    Very happy to hear you’re adopting Vanya, but PLEASE refrain from calling his country *the* Ukraine. He’s from Ukraine. That’s it. No one says THE Mexico or THE France. It’s simply just Ukraine. I just concerned and don’t want you to look ignorant. Thanks.

    • Adeye says:

      Honestly, I think it’s a mistake that 99% of people make. Me included. So I guess I must be ignorant too. Oh well.


      • Yes, I think everyone has said this for years and years, stemming from when it was part of Russia and known as Ukraine . Since it is independent, it should just be referred to as Ukraine. Usually we use for plural country names, like the United States, the Netherlands, the Phillipines…so there is not a grammatical reason to call it as such. I called it Ukraine without even “thinking” about it because it is what I have heard my whole life. I don’t think it makes someone look ignorant- perhaps just old school. 🙂

      • not sure why in my post it didn’t refer to “the” ukraine until i realized i use between it…duh!

      • that is, until I realized I used less than and greater than symbols around “the”. Sometimes I forget about that whole html thing.

    • Sarah says:

      Just reading through the comments, and truly I wouldn’t be too concerned about calling it the Ukraine. My daughter, who is from Ukraine, also says the Ukraine! I agree with Adeye, it’s a mistake that 99% of people make, since that is what it used to be called when it was part of the Soviet Union.

  15. Alicia Fanz says:

    I am so happy Vanya has a family. God is so good, and I can’t wait to follow your journey. We are also adopting children from Eastern Europe and live in the area. We will be praying for you and your family.

  16. Annie L. says:

    I’m so excited Vanya has a family!! I will keep praying that God just opens the doors for you and provides above and beyond!! I can’t wait till you bring him home!!

  17. Jami S says:

    Hello Fisher family 🙂 I too have been praying for Vanya & his family since reading about him on Adeye’s blog. I am thrilled to ‘meet’ you & will keep all of you in prayer. I’ve added your blog to my bookmarks and will follow regularly. God bless you !!

  18. Sarah says:

    So happy for Vanya and for your family! We have a 13 year old daughter who is from Ukraine. We also have 3 China treasures and a homegrown son. Praying for you and your wonderful journey to your newest son.


  19. Kate says:

    Oh you guys will be watched all right : ) So many people all over the world have been hoping and waiting to read those fabulous words “Vanya has a family.” All the stuff that comes with families, the good and the clench your teeth as to not say it out loud moments, the laughing all of it, that little blondie now get a real family to experience it ALL with! Totally stoked for you guys.

  20. teresa says:

    so nice to e-meet sweet Vanya’s family. have been praying for him and his forever family. continued prayers as you bring him home. family, home – how precious for Vanya and all of you fishies. =)

  21. Lisa says:

    Looking forward to following your journey. So relate to the failed adoption issues you shared. We were adopting from Nepal when our government shut it down last Aug. My heart broke. It took awhile to pick up the pieces. We struggled to know if we should even try to adopt again. We are now in process of adopting from China. Our agency has our dossier and as soon as it is approved it will be on it’s way to China.

  22. Gwen Smith says:

    Thrilled for you all! Praying for no complications and a chance to meet Vanya before the summer is finished!

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